This post explores the myth that “if you don’t fit into the gay scene, it’s your body’s fault,” and reframes the issue as a cultural problem — not a personal one. Jon breaks down how narrow beauty standards, labels, and community hierarchies create exclusion, even within spaces meant to be more accepting. He reminds us that belonging has nothing to do with body type, and that our worth is not defined by how well we fit into someone else’s idea of “the scene.” The problem isn't your body — it’s the standards. And it’s time to challenge them.

This lighthearted post explores the myth that “only fat people have a belly,” and reminds us that every human — regardless of size, shape, or fitness level — has one. Jon breaks down why belly size says nothing about worth or capability, celebrates the beauty of diverse bodies, and shares why he created the Belly Club: to offer a space where people can move, play, and embrace their bodies with joy instead of shame. It’s a reminder that softness is normal, movement is for everyone, and bellies — in all forms — are simply human.

Although body image issues are often seen as a “women’s problem,” men — including gay, bi, and trans men — are deeply affected too. In this post, Jon unpacks the harmful misconception that only women struggle with body dissatisfaction, shares powerful stats about the pressures men face in queer spaces, and explores how societal beauty standards contribute to anxiety and disordered eating. Ready to challenge stereotypes and reclaim peace with your body? This conversation is for you.

Accepting your body doesn’t mean giving up on your health — it simply means acknowledging where you are without shame or self-punishment. True acceptance creates clarity, reduces resistance, and helps you make kinder, more sustainable choices for your wellbeing. When you stop fighting your body, you free up energy to actually care for it. Acceptance isn’t resignation; it’s the foundation for meaningful, lasting change.

We’ve all heard it — “losing weight will make you happier.” But research tells a different story. Studies show that people who lose weight aren’t necessarily happier or more satisfied with life. The truth is, happiness doesn’t come from shrinking your body — it comes from expanding your self-acceptance. You don’t have to love everything about yourself to treat your body with kindness and care.

Let’s bust a big myth: that you have to love your body every single day to be body positive.

That’s not how it works — and honestly, that idea just sets us up to feel like we’re failing.
Body positivity isn’t about perfect, 24/7 love. It’s about respect, care, and compassion, even on the tough days.

Mindfulness while traveling, like our bear body-positive food tour in New Orleans.

Learn how to enjoy your travel more - whether it’s a bear week or retreat, a gay cruise, or a hiking trip. Bring more mindfulness into the experience.

My tips for how to have the most meaningful travel experiences possible.

Male body positivity coach gives tips for feeling comfortable in your body.

Gay bear men and body-positive queers swimming during Camp Bear Hug

Learn about the benefits of cuddling.

How to use body acceptance to stop hating photos of yourself.