Body Image Myths: Size matters.

Alright folks… today we’re tackling a big one.

And I want to be really real with you, because this myth has been whispered, yelled, reinforced, sexualized, and slapped onto our bodies in a thousand different ways.

Here’s the truth:
Your body has value. Period.

Not because of its size.
Not because it matches a fantasy.
Not because someone online told you it “should” look a certain way.
Your body has value because it’s yours. Because it carries you through the world every single day. Because it holds your joy, your memories, your strength, your softness, your breath.

Your size does not determine your worth.
And yes, I’m talking about all the sizes: belly size, chest size, ass size, dick size.
None of that dictates how deserving you are of love, connection, pleasure, or self-respect. None of it decides how you should feel about your own body.

If we step back for a second… who created these rules?
Who decided what’s “sexy,” what’s “acceptable,” what’s “ideal”?

Somewhere along the way we were exposed to certain messages—messages shaped by porn, social media, hookup culture, beauty standards, and very narrow ideals of masculinity. We absorbed them before we even realized what was happening. And over time, they start to distort how we see ourselves.

Porn shows us a tiny slice of what bodies look like. Apps rank us like products. Some fetish communities push people to extremes. Even the queer community—especially the parts that claim to be more inclusive—can reinforce their own hierarchies.

We see it everywhere:
Men with bigger chests and below-average penises get made fun of.
People with bigger bellies get labeled as unhealthy or unworthy.
Guys who don’t fit the “preferred” mold feel invisible, unwanted, or judged.

And even within the bear community—where we should see more diversity—it still feels like only the super-muscular, super-hairy, usually white guys get celebrated the most.

So it’s no wonder we internalize the idea that our value is tied to a measurement. A size. A category. A fantasy.

But let me say this clearly:
Your worth is not a number.
It’s not a comparison.
It’s not a body part.
It’s not how someone else sees you.

Your worth is you.
Your presence.
Your kindness.
Your humor.
Your softness or your strength—or both.
Your lived experience.
Your body that shows up for you every day in ways you don’t even notice.

So the next time you catch yourself comparing, shrinking, or judging your body based on a number or a size, take a breath. Come back to yourself.
Ask: “Who told me this? And do I actually believe them?”

And remember—if you’re struggling with this, you don’t have to navigate it alone. This is the work I do every day as a body-image coach.
If you want support, reach out or head to coachcub.com. I’m here for you.