Body Image Myths: Being confident in your body means you never feel insecure.

Let’s talk about a myth that creates so much pressure — especially in queer spaces and especially online:
“Being confident in your body means you never feel insecure.”

Yeah… absolutely not.
That’s not how being a human works.

You can be someone who’s done a lot of healing around body image…
You can genuinely like your body most days…
You can even feel empowered, sexy, grounded, joyful — and still have moments where insecurity shows up.

Here’s what I’ve learned from coaching, from my own journey, and from interviewing body-positive creators on the Belly Talk Podcast:

Nobody is confident 100% of the time.

Not the influencers in speedos, not the body-positive models, not the guys flexing at the gym. Every single one of them has moments when they compare themselves to others, judge their own reflection, or feel uncomfortable in their skin.

But social media doesn’t show that part. We see the highlight reel — the perfect angle, the edited lighting, the curated confidence.

And suddenly it looks like everyone else has cracked some secret code to eternal self-love… except you.

Here’s the truth:

Body confidence isn’t the absence of insecurity — it’s the ability to live your life even when insecurity is present.

Real confidence looks practical, not performative.
It’s not about forcing yourself to love every inch of your body every second of the day. It’s about showing up in your body anyway.

It looks like:

• Wearing clothes you actually like, even on days you feel self-conscious.

• Accepting a compliment instead of brushing it off.

• Going to a pool party, class, or date because you crave connection — not because you feel flawless.

• Choosing experiences over hiding.

• Treating your body with respect even on the days you’re not thrilled with how it looks.

Those moments build body resilience — the skill of being kind to yourself, even when the old thoughts show up.

So if you’re having a bad body image day, or a moment of judgement, or a wave of comparison…

You’re not failing.
You’re not “doing body positivity wrong.”
You’re just human.

The work is to keep showing up for yourself.
To keep choosing compassion.
To keep living in your body with gentleness — again and again.

That’s real body confidence.
And it’s exactly what we practice in coaching and inside our community.